How Long Should You Date Someone Before Giving Them a Gift?

If you just started dating someone, do you need to get them a Christmas gift? It depends on a variety of factors, writes Post Grad Problems, which just published the following handy guide for when you should and shouldn’t buy your love interest a gift:

-Married, Engaged, or Dating for Over a Year. This is basic, automatic: Your husband, wife, fiancee, or long-term significant other gets a gift.

-Dating for Over a Year (Long-Distance). Yes, you’re still required to get a gift, but you don’t necessarily have to break the bank since there isn’t quite the level, say, of intimacy where they will be celebrating with your family and comparing their gift to what you got your little sister.

-Dating Six Months to One Year. Okay, you’re still in the early stages of the relationship, but you’re also definitely in a relationship. She has probably left some stuff in your apartment for when she sleeps over. You text her goodnight every evening. You’re seeing each other three times a week minimum. You’re in deep here. So, yep, you gotta get a present. As for price, don’t break the bank, but don’t skimp either. Ballpark around $100 on the low end, but don’t stress too much if you spend like $75.

-Dating Three Months to Six Months. At this point, you’ve probably just become exclusive in your relationship. This is the first big test you’re being put to, so it’s critical not to screw this up. Take the six-month to one-year guidelines as the higher end of the price, but focus more on some inside joke or memory from the time you’ve been together. This early on, it’s truly more about the thought behind it than what you’re buying.

-Dating One Month to Three Months. If you’re exclusive, you have to get them a present. If you’ve gone out less than five times, you definitely don’t have to get them a present. If you’ve met their siblings or their friends on multiple occasions, you should probably get them a gift. If you’ve met their boss or parents, you have to get them a present.

-Less Than One Month. Don’t get them a gift. You have not been out long enough—this is a massively aggressive move way too early. You are overplaying your hand here.